Quote: I was hoping someone here could point me in a "new" direction. It seems it's just an endless loop of the same-ole same-ole.
What HAS worked for the readers out there? Any wives out there in the LD situation that found a way that works? I'm not talking the 1-2/week types of LD, I'm talking the 2-3/year types...
My question would be "what exactly are the two of you looking for?"
Strong desire? Climaxing? More frequency? More mutuality in lovemaking? More openness and less emotional stiltedness? Is she willing to work with you on this?
I saw a stat just yesterday that said the average stimulation time to a woman's orgasm was 20 minutes. If you have a hard time reaching climax, that can seem like an awful long time.
I don't feel strong sexual desire. When life stresses were high and our relationship was broken, desire toward my husband was nil. When we began working on this, not only did I not have any desire, I had quite a load of unhappiness and unresolved marital issues.
You can get to a better place, but it takes having reasonable expectations and a willingness from both of you to keep plugging away at it.
