What she doesn't seem to understand (and this is just my guess) is that she has to just let go....she has to stop "trying". She's still letting inhibitions and thoughts cloud the experience, what SHE needs to figure out is why she's allowing that to happen.
It could be something as simple as she's afraid of being vulnerable, and that's an understandable thing. She could feel awkward and feel like she looks foolish and thoughts like that can keep someone from "letting go" and just enjoying themselves and enjoying you too.
Have you invited her to join this site as well? It might help her to see, even if she just reads....that we aren't here trying to hook up or justify divorces...that we're all here to work on our M's....and it also might help her to see that there are other men/women like her here too.
