I'm not giving him grief over is take of love is a decision...that's who he is, that's how he works. Why would I give him grief over that?
My point is....he and I view "love" differently....that's ok. But not having realized that in the past probably made things harder for me....now that I know he views it as a decision I can understand some of his actions (or lack thereof) better.
All I want to do is talk to him and get a better understanding of his take on it. Not try to change his perspective to mine. But what's the harm in talking...perhaps if we do, then he'll better understand my perspective too....and understand my frustrations a bit better as well....you know, perhaps see what it looks like on my side of the fence. IMPO that's only trying to get to know each other better.
Now if I were going to talk to him and try to get him to understand that "Love" is a feeling that no one can control...that it isn't a decision (which is not what I'm going to do) THAT, IMPO would be giving him grief. THAT would be me saying....your wrong! That's not ever my intention. He is who he is...I'm not out to change that, I'm out to understand it better.
& Dyke...I don't care what poem you quote....for me, "love" isn't a choice. Perhaps for you it is....the actions you take from those feelings (dating, marriage, living together etc)....for me, those are the choices the feelings aren't. So why are you giving me grief for my take on it?
