My wife and I have been married for over 12 years. From the day we got married, our sex life has gone downhill. In our early days, she initiated about 75% of the time and (supposedly) we almost always climaxed together (if not her "first").
Then, within weeks of our marriage, it just stopped. Every advance I made was blocked (physically and emotionally). Finally, a year of nothing, I confronted her. She confessed that the only reason she had been doing anything sexual for me was "cause that's what I thought you wanted." She confessed that she had never had an orgasm with me (or anyone else).
After much discussion, we began seeing a therapist. With no progress, she began seeing yet another and then another and ... Well, lets just say, we've bought a lot of cars for therapists and have nothing to show for it.
We've read at least 20 books on the subject, tried numerous "enhancements" including herbals, rubs, toys, etc. She says she does climax now using the toys (after a lot of hard work which she says isn't really worth the reward.)
She's been tested several times over the years and been told all her hormones are normal and there's nothing medically wrong.
We share housework, I cook all the time and clean, too. I fix her car, computer, and everything else that breaks in the house. We've done it all...and nothing helps.
The "sensual massages" are right out. She doesn't like to be rubbed or touched anywhere. We have 2 kids (4/6), but I can't say they're the problem...we had this before we had them.
Other than the sex, our life is ok . No big arguments, we do cuddle...she just wants nothing involving skin on skin.
Any ideas out there? 12 years and I've lost hope of ever having a sexual relationship ever again...
