Do I keep a friendship with ex???

[Just_Me]

As far as him and me , he says that we are over, I stupidly asked "over for ever right?" and he said for now. What crushes me to pieces is to think how can love disappear from a person, how can some one who you know loved you so much feel nothing now.

I guess you probably know that asking that question would get you the answer you got. There is absolutely no reason to suspect that WAS/XS will say "I am madly in love with you, I can't live without you" because that doesn't jive with their behavior. There probably is some feelings, perhaps only part of the time.

I think it is possible to "fall out of love". Because I think love is something you nurture and keep alive. All you do is tell yourself how miserable in the M you are, how you'd be better off divorced, you say "beetch/bastage" about your spouse and tick off a list of the persons negative qualities and before you know it, the love isn't apparent. And if the feelings come back up, you just knock them back down again with the negative stuff that you've stored up. And that's how you fall out of love. It's a denial that there is any love, every was love, or ever could be love. That's the obstacle to face. We need to be patient, positive, friendly, confident, and all the other good stuff for long enough that the wall that they have constructed out of negative thoughts can't stand anymore.

Of course that's just MHO. Doesn't help us any. You can only be the best person you can be and maybe some day he'll notice, but you need to be happy with yourself even if he doesn't.