Whatever you might think about the R, the actions are speaking. I still love my STBXH very much...for which most of my friends and family think I am a bit loony. However, my very wise 30-year-old nephew said something to me that made really think when I was reading about your situation. The shortened version, "Aunt STBXW, if Uncle STBXH cared at all or wanted to be with you, he would call you and he would be with you. He is not...therefore from a guy's perspective, I would advise you to write him off and move on because I think that is what he has done with you."
