Maybe apply the 24hr rule here. It sounds like you may need a break. It must be hard to be ready to be 'on' in an unpredictable fashion, cause she has the garage door opener. Now, I remember that I suggested it was a good thing for her to have access to your home/life, as she was doing a lot of the contact work.
But your impatience tells me that this arrangement is frustrating you, maybe tripping up your ability to detach. I'd try some exploring over the next few weeks to see if you can meet some of this need your feeling yourself -e.g., greater enjoyment of solo pursuits, or with MFs & FFs.
Maybe review when your sitch started to turn. Did she seem to come around more/be less negative when you applied some mystery with dating (even tho she said "good" about your dating, you know she was BSing there), or was it b/c you merely mentally detached and this adjustment showed in your PMA?
Now, I remember that I suggested it was a good thing for her to have access to your home/life, as she was doing a lot of the contact work.