Wes - You and your XW seem a lot like me and my XH. We got D and that's when he was finally able to let go of some of the past, which lead us to getting back together. We were never really "single" either. We dated other people some, but not really because even then we were still there. So while it may seem kind of strange to some, I know where you're at.
I do have a question for you. I've noticed a common thing in your last few postings. When you and XW are together you keep saying that you can't "talk". What are you wanting to "talk" about? Don't focus so much on being able to talk or not, just enjoy the time your spending with her.
I know when XH and I were in this stage my biggest fear was that things would go back to the way they were before and I would be hurt again. Only you can decide if you're willing to take that risk or not. For me, I'm still not sure if it was worth it or not (with everything that's going on right now). But if you don't think you can take that risk, then I would stop this right now.
