Coming into this in the middle esperanza although I have "lurked" your thread many times. You are an inspiration at this point as my D speeds along its merry way.
Quote: 1) I want some time with just my kids. Should I just come up with something that only we'll want to do or just tell her that I want some alone time with my kids?
I'd say if you're having to think about it that much, then that's a problem. You need to just do it. I don't know enough about your logistics to provide a satisfactory scenario, but I lean towards just doing something with the kids. Take them somewhere or whatever. If she invites herself along, I'm not sure it would be wise to deny her, but maybe you can set it up in a way that makes it clear it is just you and the kids. Maybe when you know she can't go? "I know you have to work next Tuesday ao I thought kids and I would go to the ball game" or something like that. If you really feel like you need to point out that you want alone time with kids, then try to do so in the least offensive way you can. "I thought it would be fun if kids and I did xyz together" or something instead of "I want to see the kids without you". You know what I mean.
Quote: 2) I'm slipping back a bit. I don't want to want her; the detached part is slipping. I still do my own thing when she's around, but not enough. I have done too much initiating again. And I'm impatient for her to step it up a bit, but this morning I had a talk with myself about "if this was someone you just started dating...yada yada". It helped a bit in remember not to exert pressure.
It's hard isn't it? I know what you mean. I think you are in a position to satisfy your need for a fix without pushing to hard though. Again, I wish I could give you a concrete example, but it seems like maybe you can do something along those lines that is not too drastic. I wouldn't try to kiss her just yet for example but although physical touch is important to many of us, there are other ways to express/act on the kind of thing you want without it. A long, late night, phone conversation where you just talk about life until the wee hours to the exclusion of everything else springs to mind. But that may be because that's what I remember my wife and I doing back when we first started dating.
Dip back in LL book and look for scenarios that are about her LL that don't involve the overt things (kissing and so forth) most people associate with romance. Your advantage is that she probably will not recognize those things as pursuits even though it will still register with her.
Keep it up man. You are doing great. I hope to follow your lead at some point.
