Maybe you did the job of analyzing for me. Is there some of that? But, you will be there when she needs you. Look, look what a wonderful guy I am; here in your time of needs, emotionally and physically. Why can you not regognize what a great guy I am? And quit playing this damn game? I suspect that there is. But if sex is all that was offered from her, I would turn it down. I don't want to be friends with perks. Some of this comes naturally; I would help even if I didn't consider her a friend, but there are definitely some things I agree to that I would prefer not doing. I suppose that part is to appear a good guy. Those are the things I should be uncompromising about and just say no, because the truth is that we are divorced, I have to be myself, and she either will or won't accept me for the person I am.
It still leaves me with a how do I handle this? The first paragraph is what I say I want to do and should be doing. "Distant, aloof, leading your own life, you do not have time for her uncertainty, but you will try and be her friend, but without compromising your life and without chasing her." , but I get drawn back in. I know what I should be doing, it's just putting it into practice that is difficult. As I said, the ball is in her court; she needs to make more definite, rather than schizophrenic, moves towards or away from me.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
