Quote: How is showing your affection wrong at this point? If you did not show it, would she not also believe, there is nothing there and she should just move on?
Jak, the problem is that I've went this route before, coming on to her physically, and it seems like a cheeseless tunnel. It leads to her drawing back from me. I don't know if she would believe "there is nothing there so she might as well move on". It seems more like if I'm aloof and distant that she starts testing, don't know if consciously, where I'm at. I never give it a chance to see if she's drawn more to me. So that's why I'm kicking myself. I needed to be patient with showing my affection.
You share the problem I'm trying to overcome, the feeling that if I don't show affection that she'll move on. First of all, it isn't that easy to just jump right into another relationship. Secondly, if it takes that little to dissuade her from a R with me, then I'm not sure that kind of R is worth it. We both need the time and space to determine whether we want to give it another go. I do believe the saying "if you love something let it go".
But, I'm not kicking myself that hard. It's kind of hard to maintain detachment when your asked to fondle them. And the bright side is that she is comfortable enough with me to ask. Plus, unless I had blinders on, she still digs me physically. I think I would be astute enough to tell if she was repulsed.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
