I know that when XH and I separated it was a while before I wanted to be around him. And when we did finally start hanging out again, I wasn't really sure I liked it. But I decided to look at it as just hanging out with a friend, not my XH, not someone I wanted to have a R with, just a friend that I had a nice time with. And for a while I didn't really have any feelings other than friendship for him. But the more time, good time, we got to spend together where we could see how we had each changed and grown, I started having feelings again. Kinda like starting all over again. So maybe just forget all about the R, any hope of a R with her and just see her as a friend. If the feelings come back or grow from what they are then worry about it then, right now just enjoy your time with her as you would with any friend.
