Quote: It's a normal process to long for that relationship we lost. It is not normal to get a D and remarry that person.
Allan, I disagree completely w/ the notion that folks that remarry each other post-D are abnormal somehow. The whole premise of DBing is to initiate personal growth and movement toward goals that might lead to reconciliation.
Note that I used the term reconciliation. Does a cheap piece of paper that is routinely processed by a sleepy clerk and bored judge in a dusty courtroom somehow negate this potential for reconciliation once the D-papers are rubber-stamped? Do the two individuals change dramatically, their R becoming suddenly irreconciliable cause the papers are inked?
No way, no how. Its the same game, just with another slight twist to it - remarriage.
