MyLove (I probably should just say ML because it sounds like I'm calling you my love-which I am, but you know what I mean).
Thank you for the answers. Your son will be fine, but as time goes on I imagine he'll see your current husband as more a father than his father, rather than a playmate.
Sounds like basically everyone has the opportunity to lose something here and it's just unfortunate. I wished I could actually say that everyone will be alright, but they won't. Someone, or several someones, will get hurt in this.
This isn't fair to your current husband; I hope you know that. He deserves to know your feelings rather than just popping it on him. My only advice, since I really don't know what is right, is to see a counselor. Maybe by yourself at first (before telling your current H) and then with your H if necessary.
Part of me wants to say that getting back with XH is the wrong move. That you are rationalizing the reasons why you got remarried, making your H out to be more flawless than he is because you feel love for him, and perhaps minimizing your past R with your H. That's the part of me that has personally endured a wife that imagined love with someone else and thought only the worst of our R. I've lived through a wife that has rewritten our entire history together and read countless stories of similar things. I just feel perhaps you may be starting to do the same thing. Now, on the other hand, I do realize that love for someone you married doesn't just go "poof" and it's gone and I also understand what it's like to share a child with someone and want there to be a complete biological family. So, from that standpoint I feel that going back to your XH sounds right. What is best for you and your child (I don't care what's best for your XH because he didn't ask for help...you did)? BTW, who initiated the divorce?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
