I'm not sure I understand why, but holding hands while walking through an art exhibit or cuddling in a movie theatre can be very arousing to me. But, one problem sometimes has then been that those feelings are lost when we get home My W has the same kind of behavior. I think it's simply the connection between ML and the anxiety that idea causes. No opportunity for ML, hence no need to question onseselves if we 'feel' something or 'are in the mood', no fear or anxiety of 'having to disappoint my H', and with all those barriers down, suddenly the W feels a strong need for intimacy and movie theater kind of hanky panky. It makes me wonder how conditioned perhaps the reluctannce to the specific physical 'act' itself plays a role, and not so much libido, mood or desire (for any kind of intimacy)
No my H would not listen to anyone. I was hoping that he would cover some of these with the C he was going to but he has not. And for the last two weeks he has not been going to the C (which last week we were out of town) so I guess he has decided not to finish off the last few sessions he had left. I will wait and see. He is becoming more hostile and blowing up more frequently also and I myself am frustrated and feeling slightly defeated right now. Which I will post more about on my own thread in a day or so.
