As Gel pointed out I was misconstruing the meaning of the words always having to push for sex and continually and other words of like. When I see those words I see a person who literally chases there spouse around daily trying to get some. hence my 20 times in 30 day example I posted earlier. If you attempt to arouse your wife or try to have sex 2 times a week or less from my point of view that is not badgering or bothering or unreasonable. Now if your wife looks forward to having her period just so she can have a few days off from your constaint attempts for sex you are in overkill mode. I could then see your wife feeling bothered, badgered and harrased. And this is where I lie in the sitch I myself look forward to my period for that break have at times extended my use of kotex to have a few days extra in the break.So that is where my answer came from with the words I was picking up as key words.
But even as a LD myself in the relationship I will tell you I feel a person even LD/ND that does not atleast have sex with there spouse on occassion to satisfy them is a very selfish person. And also I feel decitful. Because the physical body requires release even a LD persons after so long. If she is not doing this with you she is doing this without you via sexual dreams or masturbation possibly. That is my opinion not proven fact. But as a LD myself I have been in down times ie no relationship and when I was leaving last year I did not have sex with my H for four months. On occassion I felt urges I either had to choose to override and ignore or take care of myself. If I choose to ignore them within days I would wake up and find it evident my body choose to take care of it on its own. So I am again basing my opinion on my experiences. But I do not own oneness in much of life so I doubt I do in this either.
And your comments are not dramatic from where I sit if my H had not had sex in 1.6 years hummm he would be one miserable MF to live with or be around period. The fact you can make some humor of it still is great. What is it that Lou says sometimes you have to joke about it to not cry about it.
I applaud you in your efferts to keep trying with your wife. I sometimes don't understand why anyone would put all the effert into a totally sexless marriage. Or why they do not have countless meaningless affairs since it is apparent that there spouse does not really care about there happiness. And I am talking about totally sexless marriages no sex or sex 3 times in 5 years type marriages not marriages where sex is one to two times a month. Nopkins or Mrs Nop have a saying about affairs coming from a feeling of entitlement they do not own. Some times this also can apply to totally selfish person they are taking a entitlement that they do not own. And for those of you who continue to stand beside them and hope one day they notice you I applaud you. Even though I know I would be to shallow to do so myself.
