I just want to point something out here that perhaps you might not have thought of...
You said...(One thing that drives me nutty is that implicitly, if we are expected to push for it all the time and with the chance of scoring like 1 out of 20 times.
Who other then yourself expects you to push for it all the time? It is your wants that push you no one elses?)
While it may be true that we push ourselves...remember the people you are speaking to (who are the HDS's) often go days & weeks on end before asking their spouse for sex again...or testing the waters. Many of us on here have sex 5-10 times per year (or less). Many of us on here, don't pester (or receive) anywhere in the ballpark of what you've experienced with your H.
Just trying to keep things in perspective here. Your H pestered (no doubt about that)....but still received sex on a pretty darned near regular basis a couple times a week (something most of us here would die for). Most of us who are complaining of a lack of sex here....rarely ever receive it. We have asked for it and are rejected continually (and by that I don't mean we ask daily...I mean we ask when we can't take it anymore and are still rejected or rebuffed).
I think you misunderstood Lou (correct me if I'm wrong Lou) in his "consistently" phrasing. If I'm wrong...it certainly wouldn't be the 1st time LOL. It just seemed to me Chrissy that you were coming at him from the perspective of a woman who is constantly bombarded by requests for sex...which is completely understandable considering that is what you've experienced.
