Quote: I think as long as both men and women, whether LD or HD are leading with the idea that they *must* be horny before initiating sex or engaging in sex, then we may be continuously setting ourselves up for disappointment and dissatisfaction.
Just this weekend, I was touching Ms. HDog in a non-sexual, but suggestive manner. We were in bed, no kids awake. I said, "how 'bout foolin' around?" and she said, "no."
Later, she told me that "99 times out of 100" she would say no to that question. That I just needed to keep on touching and not verbalize. She said, "if you ask that question, and I'm not excited already, I will almost always say no."
I want to share this article with her, because I don't think she'll listen to me when I say, "don't say 'no'...say 'maybe' and try to go with the flow." Isn't that we HD's do when, for instance, my W asks me, "do you feel like cleaning the floor?" The answer is always "no," but I go ahead and do it because I know it is important to her.
I thought that was one thing we were supposed to do when we loved someone.
