Moving On with H

[BeingMe]

We are really worried about our D19, who seems to have made a really bad choice of boyfriend these last 3 months, and my H has gone to the old city to try and sort things out. I tried talking to her, but it seems she is unwilling to give him up, and get back on track with college, etc. I think we're going to have to DB her. AAAGGGHHH! Kids seem to be more emotionally draining when they are adults than when they were little, I am discovering as each of ours reaches adulthood. We always thought we were doing the best we could for them, but somehow they find something to complain about, and blame us for, or find us wanting. At the moment, we're just not rich enough to pay for their college tuition. We have a home they can live in for free, and we offered to pay toward tuition, as best we can, but they want their 'freedom' and that costs money. We cannot afford to pay for all their college tuition, books, living expenses, etc. Obviously, therefore, they don't want a future badly enough. It is so frustrating because we are dealing with this doubly, since they are twins of 19 years old, one boy and one girl, and they both can't seem to make up their minds about what they want to do with their lives, except spend the little money they earn (minimum wages) and have fun. Again ..... AAAAAAAGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!! Every time I look in the mirror, I see more grey hairs.

I told my D13 that there is no ifs, buts, or maybes - when she graduates high school, she is going directly into college. There will be no 1 year breaks. NO WAY!!!! She just said, "yes, mom". Not sure if I detected a little gleam of amusement in her eyes or not. Hmmmm!