I guess I was seeing it more as a way of seeing where the allegances lie, family or friends (etc). The kids would know exactly what choice was made at that point too. However some would handle it better than others and I don't want the kids having a bad view of their mother.
I'm getting more involved in some non-work stuff, which has been fun, something to get my mind off things. Occasionally the W gets involved too. Just trying to have new common activities.
