My H also said that they were just friends - yeah right! When I spoke to her, she tried to blame my H (and, of course, he is also to blame), but what a wonderful 'friend' that is, 'eh! What I do appreciate about my H, is that he ended the contact himself, without my input or influence. He finally decided it was over. However, he didn't tell her that he is no longer 'in love' with her, which kinda upset me. I needed him to say those words to her and to tell her that he loves his wife, but he didn't. So, we will sort that out in counselling, I hope. This is one of the reasons I don't trust him. I don't trust his motives for wanting to stay married. I think it's the children and that isn't fair on them. He says he loves me, that he didn't really love her, that it was a fantasy and he didn't know what he was thinking, but a part of me just doesn't believe him.
Time will tell, I guess. I am at a point in my life, and this journey, where if he betrays me again, he is OUT, and I will be perfectly happy to be on my own. I will not be going through this again. I only agreed to continue our M because, at least, the A wasn't a physical (I don't know how y'all deal with that) - not sure what I would've done then.
When we had agreed to get divorced, I was quite relieved. I would keep talking to him about my plans after we separate, started looking for a house, was spending more time at the gym and with friends. I was excited about my future. I still wonder if I did the right thing taking him back. Ultimately, I think I would've regretted it down the road if I hadn't, but I still wonder. After all, being with someone who had betrayed me was not fun at all. I had lost my respect and trust for him, but I still loved him. I think this detached attitude I had finally made me attractive to him. Who knows what finally brings them home, though?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
