He knows they cant remain friends. I beleive what is happening is he stands firm and is cold and distant to her and then as time goes on things start to ease up and then she get emotional with him and he feels bad and he says " I know this is difficult and its tough for me but we need to find a way to make it work and get on with our own lives" She hears this as " He still cares for me" and so she keeps looking for his shoulder to cry on. He is trying to keep it under wraps at work and because its a small office and she is emotional and gets pouty etc etc he gets scared and then backs off from being distant. Does that make sense. I have been saying for months that nothing is going to make her realize hes done until he gets mad and comes right out and says I DONT LOVE YOU. I think that is what finally happended yesterday. My H is a very emotional man and wears his feelings on his sleeve so he is trying to keep his emotions under wrap. I would be a fool to think he doesnt still care for this woman in some way and it will take time for her to become a distant memory but almost impossible to happen until he finds a new job. He is looking. I do believe he not only loves me that he is where he wants to be and wants to put this all behind him but its taking so much longer because of the work situation. He is fearful that I am going to get fed up and decide enough is enough. Thats why he hides his emotions from me. She is relentless though and keeps coming back with notes and voice mails at the office. He told her yesterday "no more note" the next time you put a note on my desk I am going to leave it there for all to see. I hope he can stay focused and stay angry about it but its highly unlikely. Thats why I have to take the high road and not pressure him or let him see me getting frustrated. I wish she would latch on to someone else.
