That is my take on "Soul-Mates" as well, which is why I stated to CeMar that he's has a goal for his R and an expectation of his W that she's not likely to attain....IMPO he's setting them both up for failure if "Soul-Mates" or nothing at all is really his goal. Sure, I think they can improve things...but why would he be asking her to now be something she never was to begin with?
