I really do wish you would review (if you haven't already) your past posts. If you do you will see that you do have this circular thinking that IS expecting perfection from her...and possibly from you too for that matter in your R. That is tooooooo much pressure on either of you to succeed.
You said...your goal was to be soul-mates. But you also said you were closer to being soul-mates several years ago....that means you were NEVER soul-mates to begin with. Logical conclusion right? That means then that you actually asking your W (if your goal is truly to try to become soul-mates, which I still believe you are or you aren't) to be 125% of the woman she is now. (50% to get to halfway of where she was when you met + 50% to get to where she was (not a soul-mate then) + 25% to be a soul-mate)...which is what you've stated your goal is.
I'm just breaking down for you how it appears here on the BB, to me. You may think you are asking her to only go back 50%, but if your goal (as you stated) is something you've never been....then you're asking much, much, much more than you think.
And since you've stated soooooo many times that if we can't be this, or she can't do that.....that the R isn't worthwhile I truly think you are setting both of you up for failure.
Just from an outsiders' perspective...who has been continually reading your posts, YOU are setting goals so high there's no way she (or you) can reach them. I don't see you setting short-term attainable goals (at least not here)...just these HUGE, idealistic goals which, CeMar no one can reach without having smaller attainable goals beneath them.
Do you hear what I'm saying here? Really put some thought into this....really go back and read your posts, you will see this vicious cycle of circular thinking I'm talking about. I've pointed out to you before, others have too...yet you are still trapped in it. I truly believe you are going to find it nigh-near impossible to make improvements in your M while you are trapped here.
