Last night my bf talked quite a bit about what he and his C have been discussing. The C recently had prostate surgery, so they were able to talk about ED issues. The C told him to go to a urologist. The content of their convo wasn't all that "meaty" , but I was just so glad that bf got to discuss this with another guy.

The C did say something very interesting. He's real into Wild Man stuff and archtypal masculine behavior and stuff like that, which is so affirming for bf, who was raised without a father.

The C said that biologically, viscerally, physically it's natural for the male to be somewhat sexually shy because his genitals are on the outside of his body. He must physically protect them. I guess it's only testosterone and the resulting aggression (when it's functioning) that makes a man push past that and expose himself and his genialia to a woman who just might chop them off. I mean, I'd be scared to stick my favorite and most vulnerable part into that dark hole, too! Yikes! Anyway, I thought that was interesting in light of the other thread about sexually shy H's.

What I can't figure out is where some of the H's on this board get the stamina to keep reaching for sex when they are shot down and rejected year after year.

We had a good talk about sex last night and I'm feeling a bit optimistic at the moment. Hope I can relocate my sexual desire if I should happen to need it.