The point I was making is that HD or not sex grows out of a more general intimate connection (soul mates, if you will). Cause if all it was about was sex with true desire (aka lust) then f*ck buddies would do it. It is sex with my H, the man I love that matters. A lifetime of no sex and little desire will always leave me sad and wanting in that area of my life. A lifetime of no H is even sadder.
