I have asked my H exactly that question. H is there something that you are unhappy with in this R? Is there something I could do or stop doing that would make this a safer, happier, better M for you? Mind you this is not a conversation in which I brought up the sex issue at all.
H's reply? No. Honey, you are wonderful and I appreciate everything you do and I trust that you are doing the best that you can and believe that I am doing so also. But..... we have all of these things (laundry list of life things - kids, money, chores, work) that make me exhausted, drained and emotionally frustrated. I feel like I am failing in some of these areas and it is really hard for me. Sometimes he has also said that he feels "alone" - I asked why. It is because he feels that as the husband he should tackle all of this stuff on his own.
I sometimes think my H isn't so much LD as he is anxious about both sex and other stuff and it just keeps him from acting on sexual feelings or maybe even noticing sexual feelings sometimes. I think that his anxieties take away from his enjoyment of this relationship and from life in general.
