Quote: I didn't mean to discount you or speak for you. I'm not nearly as "nasty" as you think. I just get desperate when I feel someone is discounting and not listening to me.
I don't think *you* are nasty. I think it a thought process that is nasty. "You only X because of Y."
It negates the person speaking to you and it negates their input.
It can leave the "discounter" intellectually lazy, because they think have addressed an issue, proved a point, and all they did was undermine/attack the messenger.
It is exemplified by a LD person telling their spouse, "you only do/say/feel that because you are horny."
End of discussion. End of understanding.
And the HD person is left there, knowing that they have been discounted, that their needs have been dismissed, that once again their heart has not been heard.
Because "they only X because of Y."
It is a pi$$-poor lonely place to be and any individual who is seeking understanding should guard against projecting it onto another person.
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I apologize for and heavy-handed way I may have expressed my passionate feelings about this subject.
