Ah how true that is but again in the HD/LD catch 22 aspect my H is the HD and he will only tell me what he does not want and that is a sexless relationship he will not tell me other then that anything as to what he does want and what he is willing to do to make the relationship better or wants me to do to make it better other then to want to have sex more often.
But in all fairness I cannot tell him what I need of him. I can say what I want of him and don't want of him but need is so much bigger and I am at a dead blank there. I just cannot seem to truely define what my love language is for him to speak to me in. If I was to say WOA then his telling me I am pretty would be in my love language. It is not no gushy feelings come from knowing my H finds me pretty. But if I was to say that WOA were not important that is incorrect also I want my H to tell me he finds me smart and witty and funny that is important to me. If I am to say PT is important to me then deep throat kissing and sexual desire should fill my love tank but they don't. Yet if I say that PT is not important to me it seems decieving also because I like and crave touching that does not come from sexual desire and feel loved from this. So it is all becomes so dam confusing. That even I don't know what I want.
