Quote: Maybe I can put it this way: shared activities, etc. is a necessary but not sufficient condition for me to be satisfied, AND sex* is a necessary, but not sufficient condition for me to be satisfied. Both are necessary.
Sex doesn't "do it" for me. If sex were the most important thing, I'd be long gone as there is nothing holding me in this R except my regard for my bf-- not marriage, children, shared finances, or shared home. Clearly there are other things more important than sex to me.
But I DO want sex in this R at some point.
Mrs NOP wrote
Quote: Sex does it for you. But because it is of such importance to you, it's as if you can't conceive that *other* people have criteria other than sex that leaves them feeling loved and special.
Why would we want to equate the marital relationship that Chrissy or I might want as "just roommates"? Sex for me is an extension of the relationship. It isn't the leading component. It isn't the defining component.
I can jolly well conceive of it, he11, I'm LIVING IT! But how does that make my R different from a R between two opposite sex roommates-- take Will and Grace-- who clearly adore each other?
More clarification: I'm also not saying that just because the HD person is basically content except for the lack of sex that the LD person is also basically content. Since I'm not the LD person, I can't address that (and wouldn't).
