Chrissy, honey, I'm not claiming to read other people's minds... I'm only going by what people post on this board. I'm not speaking for their spouses. I was only addressing the attitudes as I perceive them of the HD people who post here.
To recap: I do not glean from my reading that, generally speaking, there are other huge areas of discontent on the part of HD people with their marriages.
I said in my post way back there that I acknowledged that my bf regards me as special. I said that one of the ways in which I wanted to experience that "specialness," i.e., the way that I'm different from the other women in his life, is by seeing some behavioral evidence that he desires me or sees me sexually.
Mrs. NOP asked what if ALL he wanted was sex and that was the ONLY way he expressed the fact that he sees me as special.
I said as you quoted (out of context)
Quote: No question about it-- I would cease to feel special or loved if ALL he wanted was sex. That is not a problem in this R, nor in many of the Rs on this board.
What I should have added to clarify for you was
Quote: That is not a problem in this R, not in many of the Rs on this board as far as I can infer from the posts I read here.
What I meant by that statement was that in my case, and in my perception of other HD's sitches on this board (derived from reading) is that we (the HD people) acknowledge that we are the beneficiary of loving gestures from our partners, just not sexual gestures.
So the sitch that Mrs N hypothesized (namely that "all he wants is sex") is not the case for me, nor is it the case for many of the HDs on this board, as far as I can tell from the HD point of view from what I read.
