Quote: No question about it-- I would cease to feel special or loved if ALL he wanted was sex. That is not a problem in this R, nor in many of the Rs on this board.
Lil, You are projecting that from a HD point of view. I believe if most of the HD spouses were on this board posting you would find that this is a problem with a large amount of R on this board.
I do beg to differ with this... In the past year (it will be in 5 days) that I've been reading this board, I've been struck by how many HD people ON THIS BOARD (not speaking for all the HD people in the world) are really overall satisfied with their marriages and the one thing they would change is to have their LD spouse more sexually responsive to them. Karen, IHJ, GEL, GGB-- and honeypot until she morphed into an LD person recently-- have said they love their spouse but would like there to be more sexual connection.
It is my perception that most of the HD people posting here are NOT grossly discontented with their lives and their relationships and that the low frequency of sex is just one more thing on a long list of cr@ppy things about their Rs. Just the opposite-- most are pretty satisfied except for the sexual part. (I grant you that there is probably more going on and that the sexual disconnect is a symptom, maybe even the tip of the iceberg, but I stand behind my statement that most people are pretty satisfied with their Rs overall.)
Others can correct me if I'm reading their sitch(es) wrong.
