Yes I do understand that you crave his physical attention I was responding to the question of how if he does the same for all do you know you are special. There are other indicators other then sex to show someone that they are special to you.
Do you really not see that his desiring me sexually-- and acting on that desire-- would set me apart from all the women in his life and that that would be meaningful to me? This is a yes and no question for me. Though yes I do understand what you are saying I know plenty of people in relationships not marriages that say someone is specical to them have sex with them but are also having sex with someone else within that same time frame.Or have had sex with plenty of other people in there life at some point. So I guess for me the having sex thing while nice would not equate to I am special. Example a ex of mine was not big into PDA but was incapable of not touching me when we were together this was not sexual but more walking past me and touching my arm or some small thing. His mom was amazed she had never seen him drawn to touch someone before. This made me feel special not the sex which was a good thing because he was having sex with several other people at the time without my knowledge. What made it different was in public he never touched them. Those innocent touches are what made me feel special and to this day as far as his mom says he still has never been publicly touchy with anyone else since. Sorta a jaded example but the only one I could come up with at the moment. Seeings I have to dig far back for memories of someone making me feel special in a relationship.
Or do you find your H's sexual desire for you meaningless? If he STOPPED acting sexual toward you, wouldn't you wonder if he still loved you in a special way?
Do I find it meaningless for him no. If he stopped acting sexual toward me would I wonder if he still loved me in a special way. His sexual desire does not make me feel special in any way I derive no sense of being loved by him from his sexual desire so the answer is no.
When that "want" disappears over a long period of time, can you imagine what that might do to your feelings about the marriage, about your spouse's feelings for you, and about yourself?
Lil for myself and myself only I do not think it would change how I feel about myself my self worth is not based on my H and his desires. And I do not think it would change the way I view my H feelings towards me either. Now I do feel it may have some impact on my marriage you level our drives out and take that out of the main focal point and you have a chance to build on other things. That may be the healhiest thing to come along and help my marriage
