Quote: Do you really not see that his desiring me sexually-- and acting on that desire-- would set me apart from all the women in his life and that that would be meaningful to me?
Yes, I do see that receiving this from him would be very meaningful to you and would make you feel special.
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Or do you find your H's sexual desire for you meaningless? If he STOPPED acting sexual toward you, wouldn't you wonder if he still loved you in a special way?
I can't speak for Chrissy, but I don't find it meaningless. I find that it is a "love language" that doesn't speak to me as deeply as it does others.
Quote: I would really like to hear from an LD person on this question: when you have a spouse who has a steady and reliable desire for you, can you imagine how it might affect you if they just stopped acting sexual toward you-- for years? It's easy to say sexual vibes between the H and W aren't the core of the marriage or all that important when you're at a feast. You can focus on other things, and even be a bit annoyed that they "want" you all the time. When that "want" disappears over a long period of time, can you imagine what that might do to your feelings about the marriage, about your spouse's feelings for you, and about yourself?
Let's turn that the other way. What if your boyfriend seldom spent time with you. What if there was no garden work, no choir, no trips, no weekend visits, no church, no dinners, little or no interaction on a daily basis. What if he just showed up at 9pm each night, wanted sex and then left?
