In other words, spouses who have needs/desires (even outside the sexual) who are left to pursue those needs/desires (even though society sanctions them as not being limited to a marital relationship) are spouses who will be investing emotional energy outside of their marriage and who will be vulnerable to extramarital affairs.
That would probably help explain why LD spouses are just as inclined to have affairs as are HDs.
If ever I was to have a affair I do believe this would be the basis of it not sex but the need to fufill the aspects of my wants that do not relate to the sexual side of my marriage that lack so much within my relationship. I could never just go out and have sex that is not within me. But if I befriended someone of the oppisite sex that meet emotional needs that my H does not I could not swear that at some point it would not fall into a physical relationship. In the dynamics of my M a real R lacks essence if that were to transpire with another person I fear what kind of a reliance I may form on that other person.
Evidently recreational companionship is a biggy on my wanta meter. Even *I* think it sounds goofy
I do not think this sounds goofy anymore then I think my saying I want to have a person to have a real indepth relationship not just a sex life with sounds goofy. It may not be want everyone cares about but that is what makes us all different.
