Quote: I don't think we're "limiting it to sex only" in this discussion; I
My response was specifically to Cemar, who is adamant that the only thing different between roommates and spouses is that with spouses you make love.
I was responding directly to this:
Quote: What is it that a LD does for their spouse/relationship that they do not do with anyone else, that morally/ethically/religously can ONLY be done with their spouse?
I was pointing out that things as mundane as a desire for conversation are available at a different level with spouses than it is with mere friends. I can talk with friends, but I don't want to share my depths with my friends, I want to share that with my spouse. If I share that depth with another person, as a hetero, if I share that depth with a man, I am going to eventually become emotionally entangled with that man. So, I share myself in conversation with my spouse in a way that I have never shared with anyone before.
I can kiss friends, both male and female on the cheek - even a quick lip smack on occasion. I'm not however, going to be french kissing them. Conversation, time together, etc., can also be at different levels, just like the aforementioned kissing can be.
