I'm with you Mrs. Nop. That precisely is why I have such issues with H having soooooooo many people in his "inner circle." In my mind, the spouse is in the inner circle and all the other circles of life intersect that one (like a venn diagram). There is a preference for the spouse, a unique enjoyment with the spouse, something that just isn't there with anyone else. Other people are important as well but as you said, the fact that it is our spouse that we are sending a card to, our spouse that we are at dinner with, our spouse that we are hugging makes it different and special.
