Individuals without a sex drive do not understand why they are not interested
I can relate to that. Wish they would have had a answer in the article. Knowing you don't have one and figuring out why is so other end of the spectrum
"That was nice, but I don't ever need to do it again." This can be very frustrating to a person who believes that by providing a fantastic orgasm for a disinterested partner, that partner will be "cured" of their low desire. It doesn't happen that way.
Ah this one is a line of real confusion. I myself feel this way no matter how many orgasms I have afterwards I still have no great desire to have another one. Why? When I go to the beach and have a relaxing fun filled day I cannot wait to do it again. When I use to go out dancing for a evening and had a good time I would always plan on doing it again sometimes the next day. Now that I don't dance often I look back longingly at when I did and miss the enjoyment. When I spend a day going to yard sales with a friend and enjoy myself I want to do it again. So why is it if enjoyment motivates me to repeat actions or memories of enjoyable activities makes me yearn to repeat those actions that this does not spill over into orgasims? It really makes no sense and befuzzles me to no end. Why is it just this one thing that no matter how much I enjoy it I still do not have a desire to repeat it or yearn for it in its absence.? Would make sense if it was across the board for all enjoyable activities if I had a I can take it or leave it attitude but I do not.
All too often we confuse sexual desire with emotional love ." Love and sexual appetite are not the same. Physical attraction, sexual chemistry, physical lust operates on a totally different program than emotional caring and commitment.
This statement though I agree with seems to be a contradiction of what so many people on this board feel with there need to feel desired and wanted.To have there love tank filled through the emotional bonds they achieve through sexual fufillment. All that seems to go against the grain of what this statement indicates. These statements though seemingly logical to me may in themselfs smack of LDness just for that reason I can relate to them. This statement to me says that love and sex are two different beast that dwell in the same cave and from the outside we only hear there roars many of us mistake there to be only one beast when in reality there are two. That line of thought is going back to where I walked into this forum that my H sex drive is all about sex not about love. Don't know if I am ready to throw all my new found understanding in the trash and go back and hop down that bunny trail again.
It is practically impossible to talk someone into feeling something, and often the attempts to do so either drive the persons further away or cause them to feel guilty.
Gosh I just called bingo on this one. Not only can I not be talked into feeling something I do not by my H I cannot talk myself into it. And the guilt of not feeling it is overwhelming at the moment.
Funny how they can make pills to help you deal with your emotions and your emotional state by dulling them. When they gonna come out with one that makes you able to feel? The feeling pill that makes you feel all you should. No need to drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why to just hit a dead end wall as to how. Just pop this little pill and all is good. I will be first in line for a prescription for that.
Some older men still have desire, but are unable to become aroused, yet with stimulation of their soft penises, they will ejaculate (orgasm).
Interesting I never knew that.
Well again Lil I loved the post. Cannot wait for a post with all the magical whys to be answered? Dam slap Chrissy back to reality Some questions have no logical clear cut anwers.
