"That was nice, but I don't ever need to do it again." This can be very frustrating to a person who believes that by providing a fantastic orgasm Or just a pleasant experience, that "O" stage is not going to happen.
for a disinterested partner, that partner will be "cured" of their low desire. I am not out to cure BB, just want her to join in.
It is practically impossible to talk someone into feeling something, and often the attempts to do so either drive the persons further away or cause them to feel guilty.
A person who has felt desire but then has lost it, is likely to miss the feelings and want to pursue change. On the other hand, a person with chronically low desire does not, in essence, know what it is he or she is missing and is less likely feel motivated.* [Lil's asterisk] In fact, they often perceive the problem as being their partners' problem. Any feelings of anger, resentment or guilt within the relationship will further dampen an interest in discovering what it is to crave sexual arousal and orgasm with a partner.
