When my ex asked me if I had any sexual fantasies, I did not want to share them with her. She pushed and pushed and then I finally admitted that a menage a trois (2 women and me) might be fun. She brought it up during the divorce as one of the reasons I wasn't happy with her (that she wouldn't agree to do this). No. It was, at best, pillow talk, and I never actually contemplated doing it.
But, it was a good example of the breakdown of the trust between us, and one of the reasons I keep all of my fantasies and most of my sexual thoughts to myself when dealing with my current W. I told her a couple weeks ago that this was my problem to deal with, and that I wanted to be able to fully disclose and totally trust her. She really appreciated that.
Lillie: that's a cool website/article. And the deaf student story was very on-point. I think my W used to have desire. It's getting hard to remember that far back. Is it that she used to have desire and now doesn't, or did she just reel me in with fake desire? I guess the former is the preferred analysis.
