Quote: You asked about my top 3 LL- the first two I describe QT and AOS are my tops, in my opinion. H obviously sees it differently.
Genie2, I really feel for you in your sitch. I'm going to look back at what you've posted before to gain better understanding. I'll be getting to the quote I started with shortly, but first I want to comment that it seems like your H is not only HD, but he is also high control (HC). Do you agree?
Does he back off enough, from time to time, from being the center of attention, without withdrawing from the relationship, to have any of the quality time that you need? IOW will he sit down with you and talk about whatever it is that you need to talk about and really listen without just using your conversation to bounce off of to get back to his own agenda? It seems to me that he is right on with AOS by doing all the cooking that he does, but you need the QT. Does he provide that, or is he ignoring that facet of your personality? I congratulate you on 34 years of marriage, but where's the marital glue that sticks the two of you together?
Is H willing to spend QT with you discussing whatever it is that you need from him to feel fulfilled ?
Enough ???? for now. Thanks again for the dialog. I hope I'm not poking into places that you didn't want to go. I'll try to read your earlier posts B4 my next post here.
