Does my H try to speak in all my LL? It doesn't seem so to me. He uses WOA not at all. Since he seldom, if ever wants to sit down and talk or just "be" with me, I'd say QT is very low. He is heavy on Gifts, which makes me feel as if he is trying to "buy" me. AOS is kind of up in the air. The main thing he does in this category is cook. Really, I believe he only does this because of my work hours.
The thing is, he really uses PT heavily, and that is the one I seem to need least.
If I had to choose, I would say may LL come in this order: QT, AOS, WOA, Receiving Gifts. Since I don't seem to notice when he does my top two, I can't say that I get any warm fuzzies from it.
I will be the first to admit that I am not into PT like I used to. When we were younger... Now, I think it is hideous when he tries to "cop a feel" in public, or around our children- who range in age from 30 - 20. Sometimes, when he is getting his dose of PT, I feel so uncomfortable that I just about cringe. There are reasons for this, and none of them are sinister. He often has BO from not showering frequently enough. He does it when I am already settled for the night, and it disturbs me to be awakened in this manner. He does it at an inappropriate time or in an inapporpriate place.
Thank you so much for making me feel welcome here. I haven't posted for quite awhile until yesterday.
You asked about my top 3 LL- the first two I describe QT and AOS are my tops, in my opinion. H obviously sees it differently.
Hope my thoughts will aid you in your quest to improve your marriage. I applaud you for opening yourself to others to get help.
