It may be true that YOU need physical intimacy far more than any of the others....but what happens if she needs the other (non physcial) ones more than the physical...but you continue to concentrate on the physical?
She's far more likely to want to fulfill your physical intimacy needs....if you concentrate on the ones that are more important for her. It seems to me (and believe me, I understand why this is) that you focus so intently on the physical side (and I know that is what you need because it's lacking, I'm living that too)....that perhaps you are disregarding the others, which could be leaving her "intimacy tank" empty...those none-physical intimacy needs could be what she's lacking from you....and then because neither of you is doing what the other really needs/wants that becomes a vicious cycle.
It's worth a look isn't it?
IMPOV the only way that that little test (if that's what you want to call it) would be come the most important parts of the marriage...is if that's what the LD person was told. Remember, I mentioned that we were told specifically by our C that these things are separate from the physical intimacy, we were not told these were more important....in fact it was stressed that these go hand-in-hand with the physical intimacy. So, if you were to approach your W in a manner that let her know you were open to finding out what she needs in that manner, aside from the physical....she might (just might) be willing to listen more openly to you about your physical needs as well.
