Quote: Do you have no idea what would be quality time for her? Does she ever ask you to do something with her that you have had no interest in and therefore didn't go/do? Does she want you to hang around in the kitchen and the two of you cleanup together?
If you've had relationship talks in the past and didn't get the impression that this is something she really enjoyed, then I would think it safe to say that she doesn't consider relationship talk as quality time.
Mrs. NOP: Good questions here. Yes cleaning the kitchen could be considered quality time to her. I feels like quality time when we help each other clean the kitchen. As for the R talks, that would be quality time for me, definitely, and probably not for her. Just like my painting our bedroom ceiling tomorrow will be an AOS in my perception, to her it could be quality time.
I thinking while we are working on the BR remodelling this weekend, I'll try to bring up some low key R topics of discussion (like the results of the 5LL survey). This could be blending what are AOS (painting) for me with AOS (talking about the R) for her. At the same time painting the ceiling for her could be seen by her as quality time, combined with R talk could make it quality time for me.
Or is all just AOS? Good question for her to answer, KWIM?
