Interesting weekend so far. H bought a new car last week because apparently his is buggered and the mechanic told him to sell it immediately. Rather than trade it in he got a new car and has left his here for eldest step son to arrange to sell. I'm a bit annoyed because we haven't come to any financial settlement yet, so debt on new car is really a joint debt - but good little DBer that I am, it was like water off a ducks back.
H called me several times yesterday for not very much reason, but he came and dropped the car off and 'B for Boyfriend's' car was in the drive way. We were out in my car, looking at houses for me to buy, but rather than risk facing him H called the house to say the car was there for step son - didn't come in.
He needed the cheque book and asked me to drop it to him at his bowling club. I had the refugee girls and we were on our way to the park, so I said we'd walk up and give it to him - which we did - he was chatty and happy and perhaps a little put out that we were going to have a nice afternoon on our own. After that a couple more missed calls on my mobile.
Nothing today.
I just don't get him - silent all week - then calling me without leaving messages, buying a car without discussing it with me, but leaving his old car here. Moving towards selling our house - but not very fast.
I wish there was something I could DO to facilitate a discussion about whether or not this house selling/divorcing/etc is something we both still want, because I think if we had that discussion we would both have to agree it's not. We haven't had such a discussion since last Christmas - but then again we haven't really had any 'discussion' since last christmas, except the one where he said "this was the break up that never should have happened", and then went home to his partner.
I'm so confused.
Off to watch the Grand Final now. Go Tiges Go.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
