Quote: Unfortunately it's not like I can just stop it and get off. Can I?
“Can” you get off? Yes you can. May you get off? No, you may not. How would the rest of us make it on this ride without you?
Look, you are making serious headway here as is evident by your post. You are DBing perfectly, i.e. showing H your changes that by your own account he is noticing but you are doing it in a way where you are not shoving them in his face.
From what I remember about your sitch, the Ow is somewhat of a basket case, right? You are making yourself out to be, (and no doubt you truly are) steady and attractive. In other words, NOT a basket case. Does your H want a basket case or someone who is steady?
Hang in there WB. I truly think you are doing well. Be patient as long as you can and remember, “You may just want to be nearby when the A ends.”
