Hopefully, one day you and I and everyone else here will be done with this board and we will all do without each other with only James John to occasionally post our success stories!
You know what, don’t stifle SD. She is a good source of info without you having to pump her. i.e., “they don’t seem like a couple.” This is great WB, the beginning of the end may be near. (Like Pittman says, you just may want to be near when that happens.)
Re B, perhaps he should join the priesthood! We Catholics are short of priests, you know! That way you can still go out with him without the pressure.
Quote: Re B, perhaps he should join the priesthood!
Don't joke. He told me that he definately would have joined the priesthood if priests could marry ... and he's dead set serious.
Actually, he'd make a good priest, so it's a shame. He's clever, spiritual, emotionally naive in a nice way - and he's got priest's hands - you know the type that are really soft and fair, his cuticles are perfect - and more crucifixes around his apartment than my Grandma used to have ...
He will make some nice young girl a perfect husband - it just won't be this jaded old crow.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
WB, doens't B help take some of the daily pain away. I am in a similar sitch with my G. We enjoy each other's company but I fear that I jumped too soon into being with someone else....didn't heal properly.
It feels good not to hurt as much as before G though.
On a side note....I fear this split with W may have gone too far. My mom hates W...my sister hates W....my friends hate W.....they see a wife and mother leave a great family for a maggot. They see selfish behavior and the pain she has caused people they care about. This whole Walk Away thing is so F^&%ed up. Those stupid aliens....they cause so much pain.
WB, hope you are feeling better. The whole DBing thing is very emotionally draining at times, and even more so if you are not feeling the best. We all feel this way at times, and then we're all back in the saddle again
The house thing is a worry. You certainly don't want to be moving around Xmas/New Year. Could you get SD to pump him for info discretely so he doesn't realise that she is asking for you?
Your B sounds like a delightful distraction. All LBS should have one. Although he does sound a little serious.
Any impure thoughts I'd maintained before I got there were quickly dashed in direct proportion to the number of crucifixes in the loungeroom - I haven't been to the bedroom, but I'm sure they are in there too ...
He is a delightful distraction, and he does give me something else to think about besides my naked wedding ring finger. He was also very well behaved last night. We saw Charlie and the Chocolate Factory - entertaining flick. Why does Jonny Depp seem to get younger and younger while the rest of us get older and older. I LOVE Jonny Depp.
Stepdaughter left yesterday afternoon - I guess the next time I see her she'll be a mother. Weird. Nothing from H yesterday, but I noticed he called me at 8.45am this morning on my mobile, but didn't leave a message. Strange. I called back but his phone was switched off. I left a short message to say I noticed he called. I guess he'll call when he's ready. Maybe he was making sure I didn't stay out all night!!! I think he's having trouble detatching too .....
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
You and My W both. I think he's kind of a, well; I'll just keep my mouth shut so as not to upset my friend down under.
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Of course he is, WB! Yours and mine and probably most of everyone else's on this board suffer from ambivalence in its highest form. Our trick is to keep them ambivalent until they finally realize what a mistake they made.
Now, do you always call him back when he doesn’t leave a message? Maybe you should be a bit more mysterious and let him think that you may have stayed out all night on occasion.
H called me a couple of times yesterday while I was out at a big family lunch by the lake, so missed the calls. He finally left a message telling me I don't need to call him because he had figured out whatever it was he thought he needed to ask me.
My sister told me that she saw H on Saturday at 'Floriade' (a big spring flower show we have in Canberra every year). She said he was just walking around on his own because op was in the Interflora tent. She said he seemed vauge and down and it was weird that he was just kind of walking around on his own. I'd say she had him on look out duty telling anyone she didn't want to see where she was so they wouldn't go in there - she's wierd like that, she locks herself away from the world so she doesn't have to see anyone - there's a rumour she won't even go to the local shops anymore incase she runs into me, my friends or my family - and there is no basis for her to be worried, I've never said anything to her (except 2 years ago when I was angry she was having an affair with my best friend's husband), and my family and friends have never been anything but charming to her - for goodness sake, I wrote the eulogy for her husband's funeral, all of my friends and family offered her love and support during the time her husband was sick and then died. I just don't get it. She's a nut job. I'm sure poor H is finding it all very difficult.
Next time H calls me I'm going to ask what's happening with exchanging contracts on the house. I'm upping the ante - make it or break it - I'm ready for resolution to this tiring ongoing saga.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
WB, your H's OW sounds very strange. How can any relationship like that survive? Imagine living your life looking over your shoulder? (although I do admit to not going to some places where I think H/OW may be, and being a bit guarded), but her behaviour does seem very extreme.
She obviously is feeling very insecure. (Might be time to show him how secure you are )
I have to admit not too sure about checking out "Willy Wonka". Sometimes those remakes lose their magic. Johnny Depp though ~ very tasty
I'm ready for resolution to this tiring ongoing saga
I get the feeling that quite a few people are at this stage on the board. It is very difficult to keep up the momentum. This is your future though, you do need to know how long you have a roof over your head for.
Although he does sound a little serious.