Oh WB, where do we start, where do we start? How about, welcome back!
I don’t understand why you can’t ask H about the sale of the house. It’s not really an R talk, is it? Can’t you be business like and just explain that you need to know so you can make plans for you new digs? Wouldn’t that be a little DBing in the essence that you are relating to him that you are moving on? Might just scare him a bit, don’t you think?
Re Dodger’s and your “breakthrough,” same think may be happening here. W even suggested a date (remember the movie) and seems to want to spend some time with me. She too is probably still seeing the T (twerp) but she appears to be confused. Is your H the same way? Take advantage of it by continuing to attract and keep him ambivalent.
Re Stepdaughter…You actually have a good source of information as to what is happening there that you may not want to cut off. If it truly does bother you, just say, “SD, I really am uninterested in H and OP’s activities so please do not mention them to me.” That should be enough.
WB, I have said it before, and I’ll say it again, coming from a former young boy, (20 +++ years ago), please be careful with him. Can you be completely honest with him and say something to the effect of, “B, I really appreciate and value your company and I have a good time with you. But I do want you to know that I am truly interested in saving my marriage, and I hope you understand that.”
Lastly, WB, we are all tired. I sometimes (OFTEN, ALWAYS, NIGHTLY) lie completely awake at night and think, this is really just a nightmare, right, I am going to wake up and everything will be o.k., right? None of us on this board ever imagined this; we all thought we had perfect Ms and Rs. Oh well, tomorrow will be a better day. And hey, you being down under, you’ll get to tomorrow before I will!
