Feeling sick. H e-mailed me this afternoon to tell me the people have made an offer on the house. It’s lower than he said he’d accept, but he told me in the e-mail he was inclined to accept it. What did I think?

I wrote back that I think he’s the expert (he’s a commercial property valuer) and that I’d accept his advice. I did put a sentence in that it was lower than he said his bottom figure was and wondered why he thought that was OK now.

He wrote back saying it was a start and a benchmark “to work our figures on (he was obviously a bit miffed at me questioning him). I wrote back immediately validating. OK, It’s a very good start. Thanks H. I hope I haven’t blown it by not validating the first time.

I feel sick because this is the first move he’s made in all these months to get anything moving financially and now it’s going so quickly. The comment about “working our figures on” indicates to me that he’s really thinking settlement – and he’s really thinking about it in the short term.

I feel panicked and I’m scared. Is DBing backfiring? It goes against every instinct I have not to tell him I don’t want this.

I was going so well and now it all seems so bleak.

V

Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.