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I know now that if I keep using these skills, regardless of what happens H and I (and the boys) are going to be OK. There isn’t going to be animosity and there isn’t going to be drama. We might even be friends again.



I got chills reading that... it just sounds so positive and full of unconditional love. If that's what you were projecting onto your H today (and it sounds like you were ) then you should be so pleased. He'll be thinking of you tonight!

Now don't be surprised, and try not to be hurt if he pulls back. You probably just challenged his idea that he knows exactly how you'll be in every situation. He'll be a little confused, and resent you for putting him into confusion.

I'm not saying this *will* happen, but if it does... feel good because it's evidence that he's feeling unsettled.

You're doing a wonderful job of identifying sources of tension and making sure that you don't do more of the same!